We all go through rough times in life. Thank God we do! Problems make us grow as human beings.

If there was sunshine all the time every single day and everywhere, life would be a desert. And although sunshine sounds really attractive, few people would be willing to spend the rest of their lives in a burning desert.

Naturally, very few people actively seek out problems in order to expand. But learning how to cope with problems and learn from every new experience is what separates a shallow person from a person with depth. Problems, and subsequently dealing with them, are our friends in that sense.

In my opinion, there are two basic personality types when it comes to problem solving:

1) The solution oriented person

2) The victim oriented person

The first personality type is aware that problems will always occur and treat them as challenges.

We all agree that the word "challenge" has positive connotations to it, whereas "problems" sounds a little less attractive.

It is totally acceptable to actively seek out challenges. To most of us however, seeking out problems sounds a bit foolhardy.

The challenge oriented person has realized that there is no point in worrying. "Don't worry about it", is a common phrase from such a person. Despite this attitude, there is a distinct presence of personal responsibility involved in his attitude. It is "Don't worry. Be happy. We will find a solution."

This attitude is to take personal responsibility. This person has good chances of growing personally.

The second category, the victim oriented person, likes to blame others for his problems. He tends to worry a great deal. But his worry very rarely leads to problem solving. How could he solve his problem, when he blames others for it?

I claim that this person is victim oriented because he is unable to see his own role in a problematic situation. He only sees that life, people and God treat him unfairly. He pities himself and fails to see his possibility of influencing whatever he wants in his own life.

Taking responsibility for your own problems is the key. Recognize the existence of a problem, embrace it, do something about it and then get on with life.

In conclusion, as many songs suggest, worry leads to nowhere, so don�t worry. Be happy!

"There is a great difference between worry and concern. A worried person sees a problem, and a concerned person solves a problem." (Harold Stephens)

Kourosh Kavian is an avid learner of personal development and the study of success. He is totally into helping others achieve success in every area in life.

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